Though I do not know this family personally, but as a fellow human being, wept deeply watching the very touching video tribute. As a Pastoral Counselor who specializes in grief, loss and trauma, please know that Suicide Grief remains one of the most difficult types of grief to work through and heal from. The forever unanswered questions, the guilt, the self-blame, the anger at Tristen and others, the would’ve-should’ve-could’ve videos endlessly rewinding and RE playing in your minds. These are normal. Do not blame yourselves. If you must, own your part only. But in the end, It was Tristen, not you, who made the final choice herself, it was no one else’s. She decided it was her only choice to stop the pain. Those who commit suicide wanted to stop the pain and believed they had run out of options. But beyond that, your grief is compounded by murder and that is further compounded by the fact it was children. One whom you knew well, loved deeply, and had dreams for. The other, you never met, but loved anyway, and joyously anticipated her grand debut in June. Their loss makes no sense and likely never will. Please seek a compassionate counselor, a support group, your clergy, church family-anyone who will offer silent supportive presence, a listening ear, warm loving arms, shared tears, without judgment, cheap cliches and advice, meaningless analysis or any other thing that makes this unwelcome journey harder. There are people who will offer worthless, wounding words and empty promises such as “If there’s anything I can do for you...”.